Being bullied? Help is at hand!

Kirk

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During my secondary school years I was bullied without remorse for the good part of five years, and whilst I've never fully recovered from those experiences I have learnt a fair amount from them. I won't go into the specifics of my ordeal, but I will try to help by detailing a few things that may help you cope with the difficult times ahead.

1) You Are Not Alone

For those of us who feel secluded from everyone, it's sometimes very difficult to see how things could get worse, or how unwanted you could possibly be. The fact of the matter though, is that you are not alone, and that there are hundreds of thousands of people out there who are nothing like the bullies who torment you today. From small communities like Confab-It to anti-bullying groups, there are people in this world willing to support you through the pain, and you need only to search a short while to find them and ask for their hand in friendship.

2) Never Give Up

When you're feeling down in the dumps, sometimes you just want to give up and let the bullies win. I'm telling you not to do that. Despite the hardships you may face from doing so, standing up for yourselves and facing your enemies will do much more good in the long-run, and give you that boost of confidence you need. Show those bullies that you will not tolerate being messed around with, and eventually they'll get the message and turn the other way. Early on in my school life I walked with my head pointing towards the ground, but after building up courage by the end of it I was looking up at the sky.

:relievedface: Tell Someone

Communicating your issues, whether it be to a friend, parent, guardian or teacher, can sometimes help alleviate the stress and loneliness that you feel. Even if they may not understand or have comforting words to offer you, their new-found awareness may be of some help in the future as they look out for you and make sure you're safe. If you're not comfortable talking to someone you know, there are many helplines or websites such as Confab-It willing to offer you guidance and listen to your story.

4) Never Change

If you're happy with your life aside from the bullying, you should keep on doing whatever it is you do. Your interests, talents, future prospects and goals are far more important than anyone who would ever try to bring you down. Work towards your targets and accomplish those things in your life that you've always wanted to achieve; when you look back, you'll be extremely glad that you did. Never change how you dress, look or smell because someone made a sarcastic or hateful remark; look at yourself and think about what you want for yourself and what you like, and concern yourself with that only.

5) Tell Your Story

You may think that many people wouldn't be interested in your opinions or feelings, but you'd be far from the truth. There are many websites out there, ourselves included, wanting to listen to and learn about you. Your experiences and ideas on how to cope may help someone else in need, and they in turn could assist another individual. Never underestimate the power of words, and whether you express yourself through writing, music, video or something else, your effort could mean the world to someone

6) You Have A Future

Whether it be tomorrow, next month or next year, eventually the bulling with subside and you will finally be free. Life is good, and although reality will often bring you down and make you see the worst that it has to offer, the best parts are always waiting for you. If non of the above helps you, just remember that you have a future waiting for you...just needing you to find it.​
 
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Bazinga!

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One thing you can do is just being around your friends or whoever it is that you normally hang around with. A bully is more likely to pick on someone who is by themselves than someone who is hanging around a bunch of other people.
 

Neil

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One thing you can do is just being around your friends or whoever it is that you normally hang around with. A bully is more likely to pick on someone who is by themselves than someone who is hanging around a bunch of other people.
Exactly and bullies like to put people down its likely cause they want to feel in charge or have some psychology problem they must be having in their life which sad but not the right way to deal with things
 

Bazinga!

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Exactly and bullies like to put people down its likely cause they want to feel in charge or have some psychology problem they must be having in their life which sad but not the right way to deal with things
Yeah. They will bully people who are by themselves because they are easier to bully, rather than trying to bully someone in a crowd. It's a power thing. They can control the situation more when they are bullying one person as opposed to trying to bully someone in a crowd. Even if that bully has a crony or two, they can bully someone who is hanging out with 5 or 6 or 7 friends because he's outnumbered. Basically, there is safety in numbers.
 

TheJason

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Sorry to burst anyone's bubble, but some people need to be bullied - mainly because they are bullies themselves - or on the path to become one. I mean, if my brother hadn't been a little sociopathic with me, possibly my selfish sides would have gotten too powerful.
 
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Bazinga!

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It's one thing to stand up to a bully and tell them, "Hey, I don't want to be bullied anymore." But, I wouldn't bully them back, even if people think they deserve it. You're just doing the same thing to them that they're already doing.
 

TheJason

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It's one thing to stand up to a bully and tell them, "Hey, I don't want to be bullied anymore." But, I wouldn't bully them back, even if people think they deserve it. You're just doing the same thing to them that they're already doing.
I wouldn't really call that bullying but just standing up to people, having a backbone. All sociopaths can understand is their own medicine - so why not give it to them?

In my own life, my older brother never put up when I would act psycho and wussy, so I just never became that way. He would mock me calling me "a little psycho".

However, my other older brother, though, wasn't so good at understanding behavior, but that's for another Jerry Springer thread.
 
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JB Fernandez

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Bullies are feeding from your sadness and agony. Show not being bothered by their bullying and they will eventually stop. But if you are physically bullied, there's no other way to stop it but to fight back. Fighting back doesn't mean using your fist. Use also your brain. Try to tame them with your intelligence.